28/10/11

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Sara/Matchbox Kitchen October 28, 2011 at 4:35 am

So many great tips! When I get overwhelmed with lots of work sometimes I just have to cry for a few minutes. And then all of a sudden I feel much better and can tackle my to-do list. I’ve used this quite a few times this past month, haha. But it works!

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Marthe October 28, 2011 at 10:06 am

So good to hear you’re letting your emotions out! Hope you’re getting some rest in the midst of everything too! :)

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Dana May 22, 2013 at 4:24 am

I cry sometimes too – like today. So much going on. I have created my own madness in a sense – I launched my own non profit and now I have so many emails and calls that I can’t keep up with it all. I cry, make time for friends, get enough sleep, eat well and the thing I am doing now that is hard for me because I feel like I am letting people down is say “no” I’m sorry I can’t meet and talk with everyone. I need to reserve some time for myself.

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Caroline October 28, 2011 at 8:22 am

Wow! Just what I needed, crazy busy with deadlines right now… I’ll put (some of) these into practice… Thank you!

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Marthe October 28, 2011 at 10:06 am

Please do! And good luck with your deadlines, I’m sure you’ll rock them! :D

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Rach // In Spaces Between October 28, 2011 at 8:54 am

Such an inspiring post, thank you for sharing these brilliant ideas! This week started with me feeling overwhelmed (although, unsurprisingly, being Friday I’m feeling pretty good right now!) and a few nights ago, I went home, declared I was having a “nothing night” on Twitter, switched my phone off, left the computer alone and just read. I fell asleep at 8:30pm and woke up feeling SO. MUCH. BETTER. the next day. Taking that time out is so essential, the flow on effect can be detrimental to so many areas of your life if you don’t. Thanks again Marthe! Rach xx

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Marthe October 28, 2011 at 10:08 am

Oh wow, that sounds like the way to go! A friend of mine has a concept called “no nothing (wrong) day”, where the point is to do absolutely nothing, and whatever you chose to do, you can’t get it wrong. Sounds a lot like what you’ve been putting into action too!

Thank you for commenting:)

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Amelia Jane October 28, 2011 at 4:17 pm

These are fantastic, and much needed!
I rewarded myself with some cute post-it notes (little monsters!) which I write intentions and reminders on, and it’s such a boost to see them all colourful and cheery in my day to day diary. I highly recommend it!

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Marthe October 30, 2011 at 11:41 am

Aww, what a cute ida! I think everyone should have little monsters with intentions and reminders. What a way to fight our bigger and scarier monsters!

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Krissy October 29, 2011 at 7:11 pm

Marthe, you always kind of blow my mind. This list is incredible and so inspiring.

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Marthe October 30, 2011 at 11:45 am

Thank you so much as always, Krissy! Your sweet comments always inspire me to go on and write!

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Kel October 30, 2011 at 8:45 am

hmmm [said with tongue firmly planted in cheek, and finger pointing to self]

if people have time to read 55 things with a paragraph on each….they are not really that busy
or – perhaps, it is revealing to them why they feel so busy

;-)

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Marthe October 30, 2011 at 11:48 am

Very good points!

Procrastination during busy times and feeling busy when we probably aren’t are two whole posts alone! ;)

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Sarah Von November 1, 2011 at 3:01 pm

This.is.awesome. Girl, you’re gonna go viral ;)

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Marthe November 1, 2011 at 3:06 pm

OMG, (insert fangirl squee!) thank you so much!

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Ellie Di November 2, 2011 at 5:50 pm

I looooooove this! Self-care is SO important, especially nowadays where things are spinning faster and faster and we forget to watch out for ourselves. This is a great list of suggestions!

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Kailey November 3, 2011 at 9:28 pm

What an incredibly helpful list! Thank you so much for sharing these tips with us, I shall be favoriting for future references!

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Mary November 6, 2011 at 1:02 am

Lovely blog and I love this list. Well-written and very true, I feel like printing out your post to pin up at work :)

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Martina Lynne November 6, 2011 at 5:04 pm

Wow, this is all such wonderful advice! I’m a PhD student, so my daily life is pretty high stress in a pretty silly way. I’m not training to be a medical doctor, so I’m always aware that the stress of my job training is not really as high stakes as it feels (I mean, no one’s life is ever in my hands), and somehow, that seems to make things worse at times. “Quick!” my brain yells at me, “think brilliant and novel things about that book before you fail at everything!” This is not a good way to get things done. So your advice is really well taken over here and I really do plan on implementing what I can from this list. Thank you!

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Zelde November 7, 2011 at 1:09 am

This list ist just what I needed at the moment. I’m crazily busy and things just seem to be mounting up. I’ll try out your tips that suit me, starting tomorrow. Thanks. :)

Zelde

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Antonio November 10, 2011 at 1:55 pm

Loving this post and your blog!
You have a new follower.

Antonio

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Anita Lim November 16, 2011 at 12:47 pm

Thank you & this is a great list!
I think the only one I’m not too sure about it the worry list? I agree writing worries down is a good idea, but I’d much prefer to do some thing positive about them like decide on the next action, if there is one, rather than worry about them. Or I say what’s the worst thing that can happen & try to put it in perspective.

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KatieP December 11, 2011 at 10:54 pm

This is such a great list. I tried to pick my favourite but I couldn’t.

Maybe lighting candles … just because it’s not so obvious and makes a world of difference (all that lovely flickering soft light).

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Petrea December 12, 2011 at 12:35 am

“No need to look like you’re constantly running after your life, even if you are! Just break up your routine into smaller, and more achievable chunchs.” YES! I definitely need to do more chunking & leave some down time in there! Thanks!

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*bejeweled* December 12, 2011 at 3:48 pm

What a wonderful list! I love this: Shave your legs one day, paint your nails the next day, wash your hair the day after, etc. This approach also works with keeping your house tidy – just do one little chore every day and you’ll stay on top of everything more easily

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Sheri December 13, 2011 at 7:53 pm

Beautiful in every way. Especially this time of the year I see so many people send themselves into a complete panic over things that really mean so little in the end. Being grounded and calm is the best gift you can give to anyone who loves you.

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Marthe January 7, 2012 at 1:26 pm

It’s true – this time of year when what we really need is ease..

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Square-Peg Karen December 13, 2011 at 8:21 pm

It’s wild how – when we need these things the most we can forget them so easily. Thanks for this post – what great reminders!!

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Marthe January 7, 2012 at 1:26 pm

Thank you so much Karen!

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Shelby December 20, 2011 at 6:09 pm

this list is absolutely brilliant and spot on I might add… lovely blog!

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Marthe January 7, 2012 at 1:25 pm

Thank you!

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Tena Weinand January 26, 2012 at 5:29 am

Wonderful ideas – I have to add an important one…pray. There is a God who created you and loves you. Reach out to Him…and start a wonderful relationship that fills you with peace in ALL circumstances.

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Eryn January 26, 2012 at 5:38 pm

I found this post on Pinterest and have already begun working it’s magic! I linked the post. So that my readers might relax, as well.

Have a lovely day!

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Lisa Wood January 30, 2012 at 11:05 am

Such a great list – looking forward to trying out the one where you suggest waking up in the morning slowly and having enough sleep! I also need to learn to take weekends off ;)

Cheers
Lisa

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Michael Enos February 2, 2012 at 7:11 am

What a great list! I was just about to write a blog myself on taking care of one’s self . . . I don’t need to create a list, I need to point people to yours. Great job! Glad I found you!

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Nicholas Landry February 21, 2012 at 1:40 am

These are great… I’m really going to make an effort over the next 8 months to start implementing these. I’ve even pinned this post to my main bookmarks bar. Thanks so much! Cheers!

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LE March 10, 2012 at 11:24 pm

Goodness Gracious! So many great ideas, so lovingly crafted into prose – and can I say how impressed I am that you’ve taken the time to respond to almost all posts!

This may be on the list in some other permutation, but: Seek Joy. I realized at a certain busy and sad period of my life that when asked the question “what brings you joy” … I couldn’t answer it.

So I seek joy. It gets me through both my less and more busy periods (i.e.: it’s something I am constantly working on)… it’s especially good to be able to do it when I’m stressed out.

Thanks for making your voice heard :)

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Kristina Gulino March 14, 2012 at 6:50 pm

Wow I love this. Definitely could have used all these tips back in school (what a major drain)! Sharing this on Twitter – I know a lot of busy ladies out there could use a tip or two (including me)!

Thanks a ton!!
Kristina
Nook & Sea

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Leah April 8, 2012 at 12:43 am

I saw this on Pinterest. All it did was make me very sad and depressed. The list could also be titled:

“55 things to not take for granted before you have children.”

I’m a mommy to 3 young children and most of this list is impossible for me most of the time!

Yes! Do all of these things all of the time! Breathe them in, enjoy the heck out of them, especially if you plan on having children, because soon most of them won’t be options, and the ones that are will require arranging babysitting, which is just another added stress!

Ack! Help! I just want a nap and a shower!

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A December 31, 2013 at 11:56 am

I was thinking the same thing! My kids are bigger now, but remembering when I had little people in the house made me think that this list was rather impossible for a sahm ! Maybe a new list for those mothers, as each of us has or was a mum.

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Jess April 24, 2012 at 12:35 am

Thank you SO MUCH for this post! I just came across your blog today, and I am loving it. I live much the same way, and I’m proud to say that I already do 3/4 of the items on your list. Keep up the awesome work, and keep sharing your life and ideas. <3

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Erika June 11, 2012 at 9:52 pm

Love this post!! Your spelling of stationery, however, is incorrect. Please correct? When referring to paper goods, we use an “e”. Thanks!

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Jane August 22, 2012 at 7:10 pm

You’re comment was very unnecessary. You had no reason to call her out for a misspelled word, how mean of you. Please keep your degrading comments to yourself.

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Tabatha September 18, 2012 at 4:48 pm

She wasn’t being degrading at all. She said she loved the post.

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Ali July 17, 2012 at 7:48 am

Absolutely wonderful. I can’t wait to download the book. Thank you for spending the time to put this together!

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Khayden2 August 5, 2012 at 7:57 pm

Marthe,

I loved every bit of that. Thank you.

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Tracy Matthews August 14, 2012 at 4:41 pm

Marthe,

I love this and can’t wait to do some of these amazing self care things for myself. You have so many HUGE things happening! I can’t wait to see your grow and reach so many more brilliant human beings. It is a honor to know you and to see the impact-ful work you are doing in the world.

Tracy

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betsy September 21, 2012 at 2:31 am

This post is absolutely beautiful. I could not have come across it at a better time in my life. Thank you for taking the time to really put meaningful and thoughtful work out there. It is appreciated a million times over and more.

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pam September 26, 2012 at 1:58 am

Thank you for this post!! I recently started suffering panic attacks, and have been seeking ways to overcome, rather than medicate. Hoping this helps! Thanks again!

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A September 26, 2012 at 2:46 pm

thanks so much. i’ll do each of this 55 ways

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grace October 16, 2012 at 4:16 am

thanks so much for this. i am always going a billion miles per hour and sometimes it hurts my health or i have a breakdown in the middle of homework. i never want to take time away from working to focus on myself. these tips are perfect for me because they are simple and effective. i hope you are blessed for you help!

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Rebekah Clark October 29, 2012 at 6:53 pm

Love this! Thanks for the post.

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chomiji November 5, 2012 at 12:25 am

Thank you for this!

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xandra November 16, 2012 at 5:30 pm

i LOVE this list! i have not read it in full so that i can save the tips for when i’m i’m feeling more busy busy busy. in the meantime i’ll keep it in mind for whenever i’m feeling the stress as some instant guidance :)
xandra ★

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priya November 26, 2012 at 3:23 am

I love this.
Thanks so much! this is really really useful and necessary for me to look back on when I am not sure how to take care!!!

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Aziza Panjwani December 3, 2012 at 12:08 pm

oh my god, I am so going to try. Ever since my freshman year stress has been like my best friend, and I’m a senior now, so it’s saying a lot. I was reading through this and it helped a lot!!! I’m going to start doing this tomorrow! (:

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Beth December 18, 2012 at 5:26 pm

I’m not sure this applies to mothers of small children…;)

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Sara December 27, 2012 at 1:08 pm

I’m not the author and not yet a mother (though I am an oldest sibling of five, the oldest grandchild in a large family and an elementary school teacher). However, I would say the following:

Don’t let this list add to the stresses :) The list is only trying to help us calm down. I would choose one or two to incorporate when you think of it or need it.

Because small children make life constantly “busy”, there are some tips that would make sense for frequent application. Others, such as take a long bath, are essentially impossible with small children–unless they come with and then suddenly the bath is not so relaxing :).

I could see these being useful: saying no to unimportant things, drinking tea, and taking a minute to stretch and breathe (even if that is once the last kid has gone down for a nap or right before you start reading them a story or while the food is in the microwave–even a few deep breaths can help!)–maybe you could even have the kids do it with you?

Gratitude lists–or even mental notes–can be great. Even if they are never remembered later, thanking God or a higher being or life for a beautiful/quiet/pleasant/cheery moment can help us remember that we have them.

Good luck and God bless!

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Kelly January 11, 2013 at 6:40 am

Thanks, Sara! I work full time (as does my husband) at a semi-high stress job and have a demanding(but healthy!) 3-yr-old. I tend to dismiss these lists/things of this nature as being generally inapplicable to moms if small kids. I really appreciate your points. Thanks for redirecting me!

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Amelia December 21, 2012 at 8:33 pm

Just had this article sent in a company email from my boss. One of my favorite blogs. I am glad to see my office agrees ;-)

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JN December 23, 2012 at 7:32 pm

i definitely agree with this. i will start putting this into practice.

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Jill December 25, 2012 at 6:15 am

Also, Drink lots and lots of water. Every time you get a chance, whenever you’re feeling stressed. Try to make sure it’s COLD water, but if not, that’s ok, too. Water just has a way of being able to calm you down a bit. Especially if you’re getting a headache!!!

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Earl Jenkins January 31, 2013 at 8:06 pm

A lot of times, those low-grade headaches people get are caused by dehydration. Drinking water is good for you in so many ways.

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Go ahead!

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I was on this January 3, 2013 at 6:11 am

Good post however , I was wanting to know if you could write
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Birgit January 13, 2013 at 2:54 pm

A hugh thank you for this post. Though everyone knows this, it’s really good to be reminded of it sometimes!

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Chrissi January 25, 2013 at 3:19 pm

I have figured out several of these through my years, but have just recently discovered the power in the morning stretches. I actually started because of an injury, and a friend who is a PT taught me some things to help with pain I was having. I discovered quickly that this is as good for my attitude as it is my body. I’ve even put a post-it on the bathroom mirror that says “Stretch please” in case I’m having a rushed morning and try to pass on the stretches. :) Thanks for the tips!

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Viv February 5, 2013 at 8:29 pm

If you’ve got time to read all of this..
You’re not REALLY busy are you?

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Karen February 7, 2013 at 5:12 pm

Just adopt a couple and see improvement.
Here are some other little tips
http://www.evans4life.net/2013/01/tips-to-simplify-your-life.html

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Marthe March 31, 2013 at 4:49 pm

Go ahead!

xoxo

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Mary February 21, 2013 at 7:24 am

A good smile always goes a long way. The more that you think you are busy the busier you will be.
Mary

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Donna February 27, 2013 at 6:51 pm

How am I ever going to keep track of all this?! I’m, like, freaking out!

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Marthe March 31, 2013 at 4:49 pm

Breathe, darling! :) You don’t have to do it all!

Marthe

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CoachTiko February 28, 2013 at 5:57 pm

I love this! I especially need this now that I’m working for myself full-time. I’m learning that it’s important to not ignore self care. In fact, taking the time to take care of myself supports me in being more present and efficient in my business. Thank you for the tips! Really thankful you’ve given a variety because what works one day may not work the next!

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Marthe March 11, 2013 at 9:42 am

Thank you so much!! :) :)

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Cold Calling March 12, 2013 at 4:34 pm

Great post however I was wondering if you could write a litte more on this subject?
I’d be very thankful if you could elaborate a little bit further. Thank you!

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Emma March 13, 2013 at 9:30 pm

Thank you for this. My 26 year old passed away 16 months ago due to cancer. The list is helpful for my “reconstructive” journey as I slowly pick up the pieces of beautiful “me.” Thank you!

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Jude Boudreaux March 24, 2013 at 3:09 pm

what a great list! I’m going to make sure my wife reads this, as she’s been incredibly stressed lately. Hopefully we can help her make some time for yoga or meditation!

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Stonewall Speer March 28, 2013 at 5:54 pm

Great list. Doing some of these good habits, considering how to add others into my routine. Lucky find, perfectly timed with lunch today on my first week with 2 jobs. Opted for blog reading over nap, well worth the “me time” .. and sharing, see you on Twitter, Pinterest and Facebook .. loved it!
-Stoneythedreamer

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Angela April 7, 2013 at 5:41 am

some nice thoughts, sentiments and all round good positive advice.

Not really connecting with what I was looking for on this webpage. The google tag line that I found for this site said “how to take care of yourself when you’re busy busy busy”…..

one of your suggestions says spend your lunchtime doing….. (x, y, z). I stopped reading after that.

“Busy busy busy” women are not taking lunchtime at all.

Hope this resonates with others.

Best.

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Gina April 23, 2013 at 10:49 pm

This list is so powerful. Thank you! I especially love the idea of stretching and breathing in the morning. My day usually starts with a toddler crying out from her crib…I like your idea much better! Beautiful site.

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Carlota April 30, 2013 at 8:10 pm

Hello there! This post couldn’t be written any better! Reading this post reminds me of my good old room mate! He always kept talking about this. I will forward this page to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read. Thank you for sharing!

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Ruth May 1, 2013 at 4:47 am

Thank you for this. Such sage advise. Clearly a women of great grounding, balance and self awareness. Helping the rest of us be a little more graceful in our frenzy. Most Grateful.

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Anonymous May 28, 2013 at 2:59 am

It is so easy to forget the little things that can make a monumental difference.
Thank you so much for writing this. These words were much needed.

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Vatsala Shukla June 3, 2013 at 6:55 am

I must confess, I use all the tips given in the post with 1 exception which has me quite revved up right now – the worry list! I intuitively know when a worry is Urgent and Important or Important but not Urgent :) and if it is important, it goes on my To Do List. I’m going to try the Worry List this week and see how many worries I actually have! Should be an interesting exercise in self-realization.

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Reagan Mae Berry July 7, 2013 at 9:10 pm

Hey there! I love this blog! It is simply AMAZING. Man, I wish I had this fabtabulous list a long time ago! I’m not sure all of those would work for me, but I love all of them! I love the worry list. Everyone knows about the “Count Your Blessings List” but counting your worries is awesome, too! Love it.
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Psyche Z. Ready September 4, 2013 at 9:19 pm

Thank you. I have left this page bookmarked on my toolbar so that I remember to re-read it. It seems I’ve got a crazy-busy time at least every few months, and even just sitting and reading through this list helps. Thanks so much!

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Dan October 21, 2013 at 5:06 am

I don’t know how to say it hmmmm…. THANKS+ You helped me alot.

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Alani November 12, 2013 at 4:23 pm

I love love love this so much!
Every single point resonates with me! xxx
Thank you!

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Lynne November 30, 2013 at 2:16 pm

A-M-A-Z-I-N-G article!

Simple & clear suggestions.
Easy to accomplish.
Infinite positive results…

Thank YOU!
Lynne

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Nicole December 3, 2013 at 9:34 am

This is amazing. Thank you!

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Emily December 3, 2013 at 10:28 pm

I stand to be corrected, but this appears to be written by someone without children.

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~jw December 5, 2013 at 12:39 pm

I began tackling the biggest stressor in my life (debt) in 2011 by seeking a second job. But, instead of working retail, etc, I opted to begin babysitting, a job I love. Because it’s something I’m good at and enjoy doing, it often doesn’t feel like work at all!

But, I’m busy-busy-busy… I make it a priority to get plenty of sleep, and I find that I sleep much better these days, because I’m truly body-tired (not just frazzled) at bed time, and because I’m addressing the money worries that used to keep me awake. Plus – playing with kiddos, helping them grow? Rewarding!

My advice? Find something you love to do …. And do it!!!

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megan December 6, 2013 at 11:30 am

oh my gosh this list is soooo perfect :) after a long day of being trapped inside all these layers, my wittle friend needs to come out and pway! its good to air it out ya know :)

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vaishnav December 8, 2013 at 7:40 am

Thank you so much for such a phenomenal and useful post. It is really a great help. :)

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Kristen February 13, 2014 at 4:22 am

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Kristin April 9, 2014 at 7:15 pm

Great list. :-)

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